I woke up the day after our fight feeling awful (and hung-over). I may have accused her of being jealous, which was probably unfair of me.
I told her that I felt like she was taking advantage of me and judging me unfairly. However, she does have a good job in finance and it doesn’t seem like she’s really struggling. My friend, who I met in college, has student loans (I don’t) and didn’t have help from her parents when she moved here. Their help also enables me to do things like take a Lyft home late at night, which they encourage me to do.) I work for a nonprofit, so I don’t make a ton of money, and they encourage me to reach out if I’m having trouble with bills, which I have done a few times. (Yes, I recognize that this is a big privilege, and I’m very grateful. My parents aren’t super wealthy, but they’ve supported me moving to NYC after college - they paid the security deposit and my portion of the first month’s rent on the apartment I share with a roommate, and acted as guarantors. She told me I was entitled and spoiled, and that I shouldn’t expect that everyone’s parents could help them out the way that mine do. This turned into a much bigger fight (we’d both been drinking) and both of us probably said things that we shouldn’t have. She told me that she couldn’t afford to take Lyfts home, and that I shouldn’t expect her to. I brought this up during the ride, and she said that it didn’t seem necessary because I always take a Lyft home whether or not I share it with her, whereas she would have taken the subway otherwise. But she tends to “forget” to pay me back. We were sharing a Lyft home from a party, which is something we do pretty often because she lives close to me. One of my closest friends and I recently got into a huge fight. Photo-Illustration: by The Cut Photos: Getty Images
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